I had kinda gone MIA there simply coz I just didn’t feel like writing, nothing was stimulating me enough to want to get down to a post. And its amazing that what I usually find annoying is what triggered me to finally sit down and write. As a rule I am not a big fan of people sending forwards to my email, I don’t care how funny they are or how tragic and sad they sound, I just don’t like forwards, period. I can count on one hand the number of times that I actually read one before deleting it and even fewer times, me deciding to forward it to someone else. But then this one caught my eye, I don’t know whether it was the title, (which spoke about what women want) or if it was the fact that the first thing I saw when I opened it was the glorious hair and beautiful face that belongs to Robert Patterson (someone help hold down my cougar instincts!) anyway this whole paragraph is irrelevant to my post by the way, I just sort of enjoyed making a grand entrance and doing an intro.
The subject of discussion is one that has been done several times over, even a number of times here on blogville, but what the heck. It concerns the grand issue of men providing for their women. And I shall put a disclaimer here and say this post refers specifically to married men providing for their lawful wives (this rules out small houses for the avoidance of doubt). Now we all know that even the bible has placed men in the
unenviable noble task of providing for the family as the head of the house hold, fair and fine. I have no problems with that, hell show me a girl who doesn’t want to be spoilt and pampered and I will show you a blatant outright liar. Where is the problem then you ask? One of my favorite adages is that, culture, and indeed society is dynamic. Therefore one shouldn’t feel obliged to be stuck in the dark ages where a wife’s lifelong ambition was to always thank her hardworking husband for the pair of knickers that he bought her. I think we have reached a stage where any hardworking, professional assertive woman, will graciously accept a gift from her man, but not because she cant afford it herself. I am not by any long shot a feminist ( though I am still trying to figure out why that word always evokes such negative energy from people) but I do subscribe to the motto that what a man can do a woman can do even better. So yes, I will let dear hubby buy me anything, from a pair of diamond earrings, a blackberry, a set of wheels, but not because my fine self cant cough up the dough. Simply because he is my man, and he is allowed to show me how much I mean to him by spending some cash.
P/s I am not saying the world is now rid of the Khanyi Mbau’s and the Anna Nicole Smith, but that’s a topic for another day.
3 comments:
Erm, well, I'm no liar. I'm a girl who doesn't like to be spoiled and pampered. I appreciate being helped out when it's needed, but by far prefer to buy things for myself. Oh, I'll appreciate the odd small gift or treat as a surprise from whoever as long as they are someone I already know well and care about/respect, but I like to surprise people in the same way when possible. Gender be darned, really. And forwards - don't even get me started. They're just about all anybody sends on the net, and it's driven me to make sites for smashing the lot of 'em. Self-therapy, I think. I've poked serious holes in many a gender-related forward too, from those that say men have it better, to those that say women do. Regardless of which gender is getting favored in a chain letter, I'll just find ways to smash it.
Hey Capri thanks for stopping by
well i did mention that the post made specific reference to a married couple, and i dont know about you honey but if he has put a ring on it, aint nothing wrong with him spending on me. my point is just that, i want him to do it coz he feels like it, not because i cant do it by myself.
amen to forward smashing! lol
Hehe! Yes. I agree with you. It has to be a mutual thing where both get equal enjoyment out of it. I have a couple of aunts who have been absolutely spoiled and pampered by their husbands, but these ladies are real pieces of work and expect everyone to dote on them, yet are the least deserving of it as well, IMO. One of these aunts, I've had to get away from whenever she and I have ended up in the same location, for fear I might explode and say a bunch of things I might come to regret later. Talk about wanting to knock someone off theirhigh pedestal. But yes, hehe, smashing forwards is usually very good for my well-being at least. I've taken on pseudo-religious forwards (which usually make me too torked off to end up laughing,) to glurges to bad jokes, and often end up making myself laugh by the time I'm done with the rant. :) You've probably seen at least one of those way over-the-top, badly written "Don't drink and drive!" chain fwds? Well, although I definitely agree that we should not drink and drive, chain letters with especially atrocious stories/poems that try to make you cry, are not the way to get the message across. And if you want to see me seriously cream those silly little chain letter dead kids that claim they'll kill you with a knife for not passing on their ridonculous horror story along, well, hahahahaha! http://Fictionlands.pbworks.com/Hoaxton Bloody Mary and her crew of noseless, earless pals ended up minus a few more things by the time I got through with them. And another hoax kid Clarissa pwned herself via her own stupid chain letter. I have too much fun with this!
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